Why are there conflicts and contradictions when communicating?
Mr. Huang Yongyu once said: When riding a bicycle, scold the driver, and when driving, scold the bicycle.
In the eyes of dog lovers, people who eat dog meat are unforgivable. But dog meat is just a commodity in the eyes of merchants, and in the eyes of diners
dog meat is just food, but in the eyes of dogs, it is dog meat.
Eating Western food without using a knife and fork is ridiculed because of different experiences
Quarrels due to inconsistent work and rest time because of different living habits
There are no two leaves in the world that are exactly the same, nor are there two people who are exactly the same.
People are the product of the environment. Under the influence of the environment, we all have different personalities, identities, values, interests, beliefs, etc….
The same thing is seen in the eyes of different people. There are no two leaves in the world that are exactly the same, nor are there two people who are exactly the same.
People are the product of the environment. Under the influence of the environment, we all have different personalities, identities, values, interests, beliefs, etc….
The same thing is seen in different eyes by different people. Different people do it, and the results are different.
When we do things, there is no right or wrong in many cases. We just stand at different positions and starting points to say and do it.
The world seen in the eyes of different people is different. Different feelings, different people do it, and the results are different.
When we do things, there is no right or wrong in many cases. We just stand at different positions and starting points to say and do it.
The world seen in the eyes of different people is different. Different feelings, different people do it, and the results are different.
When we do things, there is no right or wrong in many cases. We just stand at different positions and starting points to say and do it.
The world seen in the eyes of different people is different.
Compared with other people’s conclusions, people are more inclined to their own answers.
When we evaluate others, others must first be skeptical of you.
Common sayings: You need to lose weight quickly. You are now at risk of many chronic diseases, and being fat is not good-looking.
A better saying: Think about your physical condition four years ago. Is your physical condition better now?
Reagan, the former US President, did a particularly good job in guiding others to think and draw conclusions. In 1980, Reagan participated in the presidential election as a Republican candidate. He had a televised debate with then-Democratic President Carter. There are two kinds of sayings below. You can compare which one is better.
The first one is that Reagan said: “Ladies and gentlemen, the United States is terrible now. The economy is in recession. We are worse off than four years ago. If you don’t want everything to continue, please vote for me!” This sounds like nothing wrong, but there is nothing special about it. These words are just common attacks between politicians in the US presidential election.
Especially when Reagan said “We are worse off than four years ago”, it is easy to make voters feel an inexplicable sense of vigilance. Do voters think it is really like this? Is this a campaign tactic? Are you exaggerating?
The second one is what Reagan said during the TV debate: “Ladies and gentlemen, are you better off than you were four years ago? Do you think the economy is better than it was four years ago? If the answer is yes, then vote for the Democratic Party; if the answer is no, then you have other options.”
Rather than giving the other party a conclusion directly, it is better to throw out questions and guide him to find the answer himself. After all, you will believe in your own answer more than someone else’s conclusion.
Finally:
We may be more worried about whether our words are appropriate and what the other party will react to, but we often ignore the other party’s real thoughts and needs. If we learn to start from the other party’s perspective, really care about the other party, and understand the other party, even if the communication skills are not so proficient, we can achieve good communication results.